Youtube Celebrities Reveals Her Secret How To Be More Confident.
Youtube Celebrities Reveals Her Secret How To Be More Confident.
The best way to become confident is to know yourself, and this is something that can only be established over time and over experience.
Hello everyone is Aja Dang and thanks for joining me on my channel.
Someone asked in my last video which is my summer favorites video if I could do a video on public speaking.
I think that is a fantastic idea because that's obviously a skill that everyone needs to learn at some point in their life.
But I think before then, I need to do a video about confidence because of course without confidence, you won't be able to be a skilled public speaker and a lot of people have been asking me for a very long time to do a video about confidence.
I figured that this would be the perfect opportunity to do that.
All right. Tip number one.
It's all about the body language. If you notice when you're sad and down about yourself, what do you do? You start slouching and you might not notice it but you kind of start to frown too.
what I want you to do, this is the easiest step to take, fix your posture, hold your head up high, and walk around with the smile. Once you straighten out your posture and your body language, your attitude will straighten out and you will feel better about yourself.
I actually had this happen to me the other day. I was walking into a meeting but before then I was in a really terrible mood. I was crying in the car. It was awful, but I made a mental note of myself before getting out of the car:
"Aja you better smile. You better pull your shoulders back. You'll better hold your head up high and walk into that meeting with confidence."
The moment I got out of my car, I make sure my posture is right, make sure I had a smile on my face, make sure my head was held up high and I walked into that meeting and I killed it.
Correcting your body language is the easiest thing that you can do throughout this process because it is something that you can notice and fix immediately.
Another tip is to start doing activities on your own now. I think this tip came super easy to me because I'm from Hawaii.
What did i do when i had nothing else to do was I would go to the beach, and I would go to the beach by myself because I didn't want to bother my friend.
My brother would be doing sports, my dad or my grandma wouldn't come so i would just take my car and go to the beach by myself. That was something i could easily accomplished because what do you do at the beach or what do i do at the beach, I just lounge, I just hang out, I read a book, I just enjoy my time.
Doing activities on my own with something that came really easy to me. Even today I go shopping by myself, I go eat by myself, I go to the movies by myself.
It's just something that I've always been able to do.
That being said I know that it is a very difficult step for some of you. If I may suggest, if you want to start doing things on your own but you're a little too afraid to start doing them: go to the movies. Because what do you do at the movies? You don't do anything. You just sit down in a seat, you don't talk to anyone and you watch a movie.
It is the perfect way to break your solo activities cherry. I would say if you have time go in the middle of the day, in the middle of the week because most people are working and go to the movies.
Because chances are you will probably be one of the few people in the movie theaters and everyone else is going to be there by themselves so I think that's a really great way to start doing activities by yourself.
Then once you're able to feel confident going to the movies by yourself, take baby steps. Go shopping by yourself, go to lunch or dinner by yourself.
It's always a really good thing to know that when your friends can't meet you up, when your boyfriend or girlfriend is busy, when your family is busy and you want to do something you can.
There is a sense of independence when you can go to the movies for yourself or to eat by yourself. That action gives you that people who aren't able to do that don't have.
Similarly finding a skill set that you are great at, is a great confidence booster.
It can be anything: athletics, dance, art, even volunteering.
Find something that you're good at, that makes you happy and do that on a regular basis. The more activities that you do that you absolutely love and that make you happy, the more you feel like you have to contribute to society and the more confidence you are going to gain.
The next tip is a really important thing needed to improve self confidence and it is probably one of the hardest things that you have to try and do.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
I know it is especially hard in today's world where you have social media so not only are you comparing yourself to people you know in real life but you're also comparing yourselves to celebrities or social media celebrities who you don't actually know in person.
That just crumbles, that'll crumble your self-confidence. We put out there what we want you to see. We're not putting our terrible selfies, our fights, our misery out on social media. No.
Do not compare yourself to celebrities online because that is the most artificial thing that is out there.
Everyone has insecurities.
I promise you this. Even Beyonce has an insecurity. I don't know why that insecurity is, but I am a hundred percent positive that she has an insecurity.
The difference between an insecure person and a confident person is instead of living in their insecurities and comparing themselves to other people is that they work on their insecurities continuously.
The insecurity that you have today will definitely not be the insecurity you have in five years. This is a continual process.
I know a lot of people who are confident but any time, anything goes wrong in their life, they blame someone else.
They're unable to take responsibility of the way their life has progressed. That is the opposite of confidence and self-assurance.
You have to take ownership of your own happiness or on the flip side, you're on your own misery.
I say this a lot to myself when there are people who say really mean things to me or are trying to put me down. It's that I'm not in control of what they have to say. I am in control of how I react to what they say.
This goes for both compliments and criticisms. If someone compliments you genuinely, appreciate the compliment, thank them and then store it in the back of your mind for a rainy day.
On the other hand, if someone criticizes you, take that information and learn from it. Don't get defensive over the criticism because that is what makes someone insecure.
That being said you need to know the difference between constructive criticism and just being a deck.
I've had a lot of people say a lot of things to me and in all honesty most of them were right. Some people were just being plain mean but other people were showing me something that I was doing wrong or something that I could correct in my life, because they want to see me be the best version of myself.
If so we're trying to hurt you don't pay any mind to them. I've already told you people are being mean to you because they want to be you in some way, shape or form.
If someone's trying to help you recognize that person as your friend and as someone who's being helpful and learn from that.
Finally the best way to become confident is to know yourself, and this is something that can only be established over time and over experience.
I don't even know who I truly am yet. I'm twenty but I feel like I'm getting there. That acknowledgement in itself makes me feel really good.
Every experience that you've had whether it's good or bad is setting you up to become the you were meant to be.
Take every moment of your life and reflect on it. Reflection is the only way you will grow into the confident person that I know you are.
Be decisive in your decisions, know who you are and do not apologize for the person you are.
Those are a couple of my tips to becoming a more confident person. Confidence is only something that you can gain from experience and acknowledging yourself at every step of your way.
I know that we are all capable of it and I have faith.
Confidence is something that everyone can always work on so let me know in the comments. Let all of us know in the comments some of your tips to becoming a more confident person because you know these are just my opinions.
Take my advice with a grain of salt. Everyone has their own opinions which is why I think in the comments if we could start a conversation about confidence and how you get confident in the morning.
I think that would be so helpful to everyone. Thank you so much for watching I hope this video was helpful and I'll see you all later.
The best way to become confident is to know yourself, and this is something that can only be established over time and over experience.
Hello everyone is Aja Dang and thanks for joining me on my channel.
Someone asked in my last video which is my summer favorites video if I could do a video on public speaking.
I think that is a fantastic idea because that's obviously a skill that everyone needs to learn at some point in their life.
But I think before then, I need to do a video about confidence because of course without confidence, you won't be able to be a skilled public speaker and a lot of people have been asking me for a very long time to do a video about confidence.
I figured that this would be the perfect opportunity to do that.
All right. Tip number one.
It's all about the body language. If you notice when you're sad and down about yourself, what do you do? You start slouching and you might not notice it but you kind of start to frown too.
what I want you to do, this is the easiest step to take, fix your posture, hold your head up high, and walk around with the smile. Once you straighten out your posture and your body language, your attitude will straighten out and you will feel better about yourself.
I actually had this happen to me the other day. I was walking into a meeting but before then I was in a really terrible mood. I was crying in the car. It was awful, but I made a mental note of myself before getting out of the car:
"Aja you better smile. You better pull your shoulders back. You'll better hold your head up high and walk into that meeting with confidence."
The moment I got out of my car, I make sure my posture is right, make sure I had a smile on my face, make sure my head was held up high and I walked into that meeting and I killed it.
Correcting your body language is the easiest thing that you can do throughout this process because it is something that you can notice and fix immediately.
Another tip is to start doing activities on your own now. I think this tip came super easy to me because I'm from Hawaii.
What did i do when i had nothing else to do was I would go to the beach, and I would go to the beach by myself because I didn't want to bother my friend.
My brother would be doing sports, my dad or my grandma wouldn't come so i would just take my car and go to the beach by myself. That was something i could easily accomplished because what do you do at the beach or what do i do at the beach, I just lounge, I just hang out, I read a book, I just enjoy my time.
Doing activities on my own with something that came really easy to me. Even today I go shopping by myself, I go eat by myself, I go to the movies by myself.
It's just something that I've always been able to do.
That being said I know that it is a very difficult step for some of you. If I may suggest, if you want to start doing things on your own but you're a little too afraid to start doing them: go to the movies. Because what do you do at the movies? You don't do anything. You just sit down in a seat, you don't talk to anyone and you watch a movie.
It is the perfect way to break your solo activities cherry. I would say if you have time go in the middle of the day, in the middle of the week because most people are working and go to the movies.
Because chances are you will probably be one of the few people in the movie theaters and everyone else is going to be there by themselves so I think that's a really great way to start doing activities by yourself.
Then once you're able to feel confident going to the movies by yourself, take baby steps. Go shopping by yourself, go to lunch or dinner by yourself.
It's always a really good thing to know that when your friends can't meet you up, when your boyfriend or girlfriend is busy, when your family is busy and you want to do something you can.
There is a sense of independence when you can go to the movies for yourself or to eat by yourself. That action gives you that people who aren't able to do that don't have.
Similarly finding a skill set that you are great at, is a great confidence booster.
It can be anything: athletics, dance, art, even volunteering.
Find something that you're good at, that makes you happy and do that on a regular basis. The more activities that you do that you absolutely love and that make you happy, the more you feel like you have to contribute to society and the more confidence you are going to gain.
The next tip is a really important thing needed to improve self confidence and it is probably one of the hardest things that you have to try and do.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
I know it is especially hard in today's world where you have social media so not only are you comparing yourself to people you know in real life but you're also comparing yourselves to celebrities or social media celebrities who you don't actually know in person.
That just crumbles, that'll crumble your self-confidence. We put out there what we want you to see. We're not putting our terrible selfies, our fights, our misery out on social media. No.
Do not compare yourself to celebrities online because that is the most artificial thing that is out there.
Everyone has insecurities.
I promise you this. Even Beyonce has an insecurity. I don't know why that insecurity is, but I am a hundred percent positive that she has an insecurity.
The difference between an insecure person and a confident person is instead of living in their insecurities and comparing themselves to other people is that they work on their insecurities continuously.
The insecurity that you have today will definitely not be the insecurity you have in five years. This is a continual process.
I know a lot of people who are confident but any time, anything goes wrong in their life, they blame someone else.
They're unable to take responsibility of the way their life has progressed. That is the opposite of confidence and self-assurance.
You have to take ownership of your own happiness or on the flip side, you're on your own misery.
I say this a lot to myself when there are people who say really mean things to me or are trying to put me down. It's that I'm not in control of what they have to say. I am in control of how I react to what they say.
This goes for both compliments and criticisms. If someone compliments you genuinely, appreciate the compliment, thank them and then store it in the back of your mind for a rainy day.
On the other hand, if someone criticizes you, take that information and learn from it. Don't get defensive over the criticism because that is what makes someone insecure.
That being said you need to know the difference between constructive criticism and just being a deck.
I've had a lot of people say a lot of things to me and in all honesty most of them were right. Some people were just being plain mean but other people were showing me something that I was doing wrong or something that I could correct in my life, because they want to see me be the best version of myself.
If so we're trying to hurt you don't pay any mind to them. I've already told you people are being mean to you because they want to be you in some way, shape or form.
If someone's trying to help you recognize that person as your friend and as someone who's being helpful and learn from that.
Finally the best way to become confident is to know yourself, and this is something that can only be established over time and over experience.
I don't even know who I truly am yet. I'm twenty but I feel like I'm getting there. That acknowledgement in itself makes me feel really good.
Every experience that you've had whether it's good or bad is setting you up to become the you were meant to be.
Take every moment of your life and reflect on it. Reflection is the only way you will grow into the confident person that I know you are.
Be decisive in your decisions, know who you are and do not apologize for the person you are.
Those are a couple of my tips to becoming a more confident person. Confidence is only something that you can gain from experience and acknowledging yourself at every step of your way.
I know that we are all capable of it and I have faith.
Confidence is something that everyone can always work on so let me know in the comments. Let all of us know in the comments some of your tips to becoming a more confident person because you know these are just my opinions.
Take my advice with a grain of salt. Everyone has their own opinions which is why I think in the comments if we could start a conversation about confidence and how you get confident in the morning.
I think that would be so helpful to everyone. Thank you so much for watching I hope this video was helpful and I'll see you all later.
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